Communication – Why is it so important?
I once heard about a man and a women who were getting ready to get divorced. At the hearing the judge asked the husband, “are you sure you want to go forward with this?” The man said “Yes”, we haven’t communicated in years and my wife is always complaining about me. The wife immediately rose up and said, of course we haven’t communicated, you won’t put your cell phone down to hear my voice”. Funny, but often true. We’re often so distracted by the outside world that we don’t have time to listen or communicate to those right in our midst. I’ve heard it was said that communication is an art and it must be developed like a singer must develops their voice. The good news is that no one is an expert and we can all start learning to better communicate today.
From the moment we get up each day each of us are sending a message to the world. We’re communicating what we believe about ourselves and others and also what’s important to us. We do this in a variety of ways;
As I said earlier, no one is perfect and we all fall short in one or more of these ways. Life is a continual process of refinement but if we want to improve our message to the world, we must continually make small changes in our behaviors in order to communicate to the world who we are and what we stand for. I’ve come to realize that life is a continual journey of growth, reflecting on my behavior and how I approached things in the past so I can improve in the future. If nothing changes today, nothing will be changed tomorrow.
As you can see, communication is much more than talking and getting our opinions out. It’s a way of life and listening to others is critical. Those who do it best will change the world. Focus on constructive change and get away from behaviors which keep you from communicating effectively. One last thing, past failures and fear can keep us from pursuing the things most important to us. Just because we may not have accomplished something in the past doesn’t mean it’s time will never come. Identify and prioritize one or two areas that you know where you improvement and begin the process today. Growth won’t occur until we acknowledge we need change, decide what to change and make a plan on how to change.